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Change Me

Hello everyone. I want to start with a question. How many of you ever desired to change someone or something? I'll be the first to say me. I both wanted to change people and things. Unfortunately, what appeared to be working on the outside soon became a reality. Nope, it didn't work. Well, since it didn't work that way, then I'll go about another way. This pattern continues until one party either leaves or gives in for the wrong reasons.

Ladies, I'm here to tell you that's not change. More importantly, the only person we can change is ourselves. When I started, it was with a question. How many of us ever tried to change someone or something? My new question is, how many of us are willing to look at what we were bringing to the table and fix us? Ouch, that one stung. Come on, my queens. We have to first and foremost focus on ourselves. It's easy to blame and point the finger at others when they aren't treating and behaving the way we want. My sister, remember it takes two. It takes two to argue, fight and hurt. But it only takes ONE courageous person to stand up and change a situation. "Be the change you want to see in others." Let it start with you.

Scripture says.

Matthew 7:3-5 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye but does not notice the log that is in your eye? Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye.

So, what is this saying? It is so easy to judge others and never see the mess we are providing—my new challenge for this week.


Three times this week, please look in the mirror and tell yourself one thing you have spoken over someone else. After you have done it, write down what you will do with the information you have stated.

Example. Kali, I was hoping you could do a better job being more romantic. In my notebook, I will talk about how I felt saying that to myself. This challenge was a want for me. Now I have to ask myself what I'm doing, romantic?

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